Depression Therapy in NYC
There’s a reason depression is depicted in the media as grey. When you’re depressed, everything is dulled. You can go a bit numb. You feel happiness and joy is harder to access, and those feelings are replaced with sadness and emptiness. When you are stripped of your ability to connect to what has historically brought you pleasure, feelings of negativity and hopelessness intensify.
Depression not only takes your ability to feel, it also steals your ability to do. The symptoms of depression can compound and color how you see both yourself and your life, very quickly. Before you know it, you feel like you're at the bottom of a deep, dark, hole convinced that you’re completely alone. Your thoughts turn into a negative inner voice that echoes inside your head and it's the loudest voice you hear. You soon find it harder and harder to be the person you want to be, the person you know you can be. This voice does its best to beat down any confidence or strength you have inside you. Often the voice you are hearing is not your own, but a composition of negative things that have been said to you throughout your life and you now accept as true. This is not your true voice. Therapy helps you to find your true voice, and cultivate its role in helping you to see and experience yourself more positively, limiting the impact of depressive symptoms.
The Past is Present
When you’re feeling depressed, the littlest thing can feel impossible to accomplish. Depression hurts and affects us greatly in the present moment. However, what we are feeling is often symptomatic of painful past experiences that we internalized over time. Intense past experiences, including experiences in the distant past, can shape how we view ourselves, respond to stress, and cope with difficult events in the present. Even if we think we have mentally moved forward from old hurtful memories, a depressed state can be signaling to us that unresolved conflict is still standing in our way.
When we fail to have a healthy resolution to conflict, we are more likely to expect that sadness, hopelessness and emptiness will accompany any painful event we encounter. When facing a challenge, we revert back to what we are used to and respond by feeling these depressive symptoms. Therapy assists us in identifying what remains unresolved, why we experience depressive symptoms when we face a struggle, and it helps us to construct a new narrative in how we respond to the stressors in our life.
Depression can make it feel like there is no way out. There is a way out, and you are not stuck forever.
Everything that happens to us sends a message that tells us something about ourselves and our self worth. Over time, we hold onto these messages and how we responded to them. How these messages have made us feel about ourselves affects how we respond to stress and conflict, interactions and relationships, as well as overwhelming emotions or life events.
Therapy allows us to explore these messages; where or who they came from, how authentic they are, and how much control they should have over us. The interactions we have throughout our lives teach us who is safe, who is not, whether we are worthy of love, whether we are capable of being independent, what we expect from others, what we feel we have to offer, and how we feel in specific situations. These messages, although deeply ingrained, are not always accurate. Through therapy we analyze these messages so that they have less control over us: how we feel about ourselves and relate to others, how we respond to being hurt or face something painful, or how we manage feelings such as loneliness, isolation, hopelessness and sadness.
By better understanding these messages, we learn how to have a greater impact on how we feel in the here and now.
The Beast of Burden
For a depressed person it can feel impossible to leave the house, let alone get motivated for therapy. This is why finding a therapist that is a good fit is essential. When depressed, it is imperative that you are able to speak freely about the thoughts that haunt you and tend to stay trapped in your mind. As your therapist, I provide you with a secure place to talk through your true feelings, thoughts, and fears, so you don't have to carry the burden alone. Therapy allows you to be yourself without fear of how the other person will react. For those who are depressed, this is critical. When you feel your therapist is invested in allowing you to be genuine, and accepts you as you are, the dread associated with depressive thoughts can start to lessen.
Therapy is a relationship that allows you to be yourself in ways you fear might be too much to handle in other relationships. Therapy helps you to share who you really are, what you want, what you fear, what you hope for, and what is holding you back. Allowing yourself to be safely vulnerable in this way provides an opportunity for the weight of the depression you carry to become lighter because you aren't carrying it alone.
If you’re ready to move forward, schedule a consultation call.